not theirs.
遵循你自己的价值观，意识到你总是在做选择——你应该为自己而活，而不是向别人证明自己。
follow your values， and realize that you're always making choices - you should be doing things for you， and not to prove yourself to other people.
不要把时间花在抱怨或思考这些不良的互动话题上
don't spend your time plaining or thinking about bad interactions.
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每当你让别人的看法对你造成负面影响时，你就给了他们控制你的权力。
any time you allow someone to have a negative influence over the way you think， feel， or behave， you give them power over you.
有时候，因为要取悦别人而调整对待别人的方式，这种情况也是偶尔发生的，其实是对你的生活不会有太大的影响。
sometimes it's subtle. maybe you change the way you act around certain people because you want to please them， but it doesn't impact your life too much.
也许你允许你所爱的人对你做出严厉的批评，这对你的健康造成严重的损害。
or maybe it's major. perhaps you allow a loved one's harsh criticism to take a serious toll on your well-being.
不管怎样，太在意别人的看法会使你畏首畏尾，不能做到最好。所以，要做回自己。点击上面的幻灯片，找到10种方法，让你不再被别人控制。
either way， giving away your personal power drains you of the mental strengt